A Dream, Without a Plan, Is Just a Wish!
I have always been a deep thinker, a long-term planner and a writer for as long as I can recall. I remember as a young child, before starting school, tracing over my older sister’s writing. Not knowing then that I was putting myself leaps and bounds ahead of others that had to learn printing first. I just knew I wanted to write. And I wanted it to look good. I remember starting to print, but telling my teacher, ” I can’t write like this (manuscript), but I can write like this (cursive) and I prefer to use a pen because it feels better.” My teacher shook her head and told me to proceed. Thus, the beginnings of a passion that I knew would lead me to something great eventually. From that point on, I was hardly ever seen without a pen, paper and a book.
I discovered the same type of enthusiasm for planning out my future. In school, we were taught to look at the five-year plan and then look at the 10-year plan. That was easy! Here I am, a sixth grader, writing out my plans for the future. I remember becoming so involved in the process that I must have projected 20 years ahead of the other students who were playing around, not taking anything seriously. I wrote, I want to have 4 children 2 girls and 2 boys, 5 to 7 years apart so that they can enjoy being the baby. I wanted my son to be the oldest, then a girl.another boy and last a girl. I want to be a fashion designer and a business marketer. I looked around and said, “Okay! Later I want to come back and teach these poor sixth-graders to become better thinkers.” I wrote on, I want to move to California because The Beverly Hillbillies said that’s the place you ought to be. The researched backed that up. Lastly, I wanted a great husband, but if it doesn’t work, I don’t have to keep him, do I? I kid you not, my exact words. Yeah, I know… too much thinking. But that was me.
Needless to say, all these things came to pass effortlessly. I got married, I had my children, my son first, then my daughter. After I had my daughter, I change my mind…boys only here on out! God heard my prayers. I moved to California and really started living out my passion for Fashion Design and Buying. Finally, I became a teacher so that I could synchronize my families schedules and enjoy raising my kids. I told my children, “You will find that you are multi-talented. You may not get to do it all at once, but you can do it! You will know when to make the shift. I am an artist, a singer, I love science, I love writing, I love speaking, I love fashion and I love teaching. Most of all, I love freedom. The freedom to enjoy life and the world. This later fueled my recent passion for travel . I’ve always wanted to be an entrepreneur. My plans were centered around my last son heading off to college. Well, he detoured, stayed home, went to a two-year college, played ball and I supported that decision.
But then he went off to college, I went to work and within days I developed this unsettled restlessness that relentlessly taunted my spirit. I couldn’t figure out what it was. I couldn’t sleep. It’s that thing that keeps you up at night, nagging at you and I couldn’t put it together. One day I woke up; in my mind I exclaimed, “I get it! I’m not in alignment with my purpose, goals and my plans set upon the moment of his leaving.” From that moment, I shifted into my online business.
My son recently came home and we were talking as we usually do. Being the analytical thinker he is, he asked me this question. He says, “Mom, what is your passion?” I started to talk with full excitement about my online business, my ideas and hopes to accomplish more dreams, my traveling and seeing the world, enjoying my new husband and retreats that empower women to break through their mindset of scarcity and fear. Astonished, he looked at me and said, “Mom, this is the first time I’ve asked you this question and you didn’t say teaching!” I paused, I thought, then replied, “You’re right! I have evolved. I’ve had a mind shift.”
This is what I meant by knowing when it’s time to shift into the other passions that are your purpose in life. In 6th grade, I knew that I was destined to be more, to be great and I knew that there were so many things for me to do in this lifetime. Which is why I felt so compelled to plan it all out.
Maybe, at one time or another in your life, you felt a need to shift. You felt your purpose beckoning you. When it is time, you will know. You won’t be able to contain it. It will keep you up at night. Your purpose is bigger than you and it demands a stage.
So, dream Big, Bold and Bodaciously. There are no limits; you have to believe that you can have it all!